Kindness goes beyond and seeks the well being of others. Kindness is Love on Purpose.
Interesting fact: Dictionary.com does not list ‘nice’ as a synonym for ‘kind’.
One bright Sunday I hosted a bridal shower. My friend’s doe-eyed daughter, Kennedy, accompanied her. As Kennedy was only 8 years old, her mom said she could help in any way to ensure her admittance was a joy not a burden. I tasked her with passing out pencils for the game and collecting discarded gift wrapping. She was happy to oblige. When it was time for goodbyes I handed out white chocolates wedding bells as a thank you favor. Kennedy gladly took one. “Take one for your sister!” I prompted. She looked at me as if foreign words were coming out of my mouth. She cocked her head to her shoulder and quipped, “Now why would I do that?” Did she really just say that? She had just spent the last two hours smiling, serving the bride by bagging paper and carefully stacking her new pre-wedding gifts. She could be helpful in her deeds but to show good will towards her older sister was unfathomable! She was acting nice but had not the spirit of kindness in her heart.
I’ve been doing a Kindness Challenge the last 30 days. What I’ve discovered is that…I am not kind. And I thought I kinda was!!! My assignment was to not say anything negative about my person, to him or others,(I chose my husband, by the way), to affirm him each day and to do one small ask of kindness each day. I thought I could play that tune, but the music was so unfamiliar that I couldn’t even pound out the melody! I found I was so critical, negative, argumentative, and sarcastic. I realized eye rolling was a daily exercise for me. My friend and I joked, “We need botox for our eyeballs!” I think I’m going to need another 30 days…
I wasn’t born with it and it doesn’t come naturally, but being Kind is something I want to learn so I’m intent on practicing it daily. In the mornings upon waking I ask God to show me ways I can be kind. I ask Him to open my eyes to see who might need the sweet melody of kindness in their life today, beginning with my husband. And then I begin my day, expecting. However, some days, (most days?) I begin my day by doing my chores or being irritated at a family member who didn’t do their chores and all thoughts of being kind are shushed like the soft pedal quieting piano strings. It takes discipline to sit at the piano and learn its keys. It takes discipline for me to turn my heart and mind towards kindness.
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